& THE COMPASSIONATE HEART
- If you
do not practice compassion, loving kindness and patience towards
- If you
do not cultivate these healthy minds, these positive, beneficial
thoughts for the sake of yourself and all other sentient beings.
- If you
dont make an effort to develop these positive attitudes,
you are just being yourself; you are allowing yourself to
be your old self. Your old self follows your ego and self-centered
mind and thinks only of your own happiness and nothing else.
beginningless time, in every rebirth, your old self has
been under the influence of ego and self-centeredness,
the unhealthy, uptight, unpeaceful mind. Your old selfs
heart is closed, not open. Your old self works only for your own
happiness and cares nothing for the needs of others. Your old
self does not think that you are responsible for the happiness
of others, that your happiness comes from others and that their
happiness depends upon you. Your old, self-centered mind thinks
only of your own happiness and nothing other than that.
"being yourself" means just thisbeing your old
self. Instead of practicing those positive minds, you do just
the opposite. You follow disturbing thoughts such as attachment
and anger, which offer your mind no peace, no rest, no realizationonly
agitation, trouble and unhappiness. Theres no holiday for
your mind. Even if you take your body on vacation, theres
no vacation for your mind, no rest and relaxation for your mental
continuum. The result of continually following your old selfego,
attachment and angeris that you never find satisfaction.
These thoughts can never bring you satisfaction, no matter for
how many eons you follow them. This is simply the nature of attachment.
Guru Shakyamuni Buddha said, "As long as you follow desire
you will never be satisfied." Its like sitting in a
fire. As long as you sit in a fire you will never experience the
pleasure of not being burnt. If you long to be comfortable and
cool, you have to get out. In just the same way, as that is logical,
so is it logical that as long as you follow attachment you will
not find inner peace, true satisfaction, real rest. Theres
no vacation for your heart. Thats the old self at work.
When the Rolling Stones sang, "Well, I tried and I
tried, I tried and I triedI cant get no, satisfaction,"
they were actually giving a lam-rim teaching; a lam-rim teaching
with guitar accompaniment. They were teaching meditation.
you dont have a good heart, if
you have no satisfaction, which can be experienced only by not
following the painful minds of desire and attachmentif you
dont develop loving kindness and compassion, then even if
you do take a break from your job and take your body to the beach,
theres no rest for your mind. Theres
no peace within your mental continuum because you have taken with
you your attachment and anger and the constant problems they create.
Because you lack a good heart and cannot dedicate yourself to
others, theres no fulfillment in your heart. Because of
the disturbing emotional thoughts of attachment and anger, you
get no satisfaction and experience constant problems.
emotional thoughts are the foundation of all problems. They
themselves are the main problem. Because of them, you have
no inner peace and cannot enjoy your life. Even though externally
it might look as if youre enjoying yourself, as if youre
experiencing excitement and pleasure, when you look into your
heart, you know that theres always something missing. Only
by giving up, cutting, freeing yourself from, disturbing emotional
thoughts such as the painful mind of attachment, can you find
satisfaction in your heart, in your inner life. If you can stop
being your old self, if you can stop following the beginningless
discriminating thoughts of attachment and anger, stop forming
the thought of anger, stop transforming the mind that was not
angry into one that wants to harm others, you will never have
enemies. Wherever you go, you will never find an enemy trying
to harm you.
do you do when you encounter someone who doesnt love you,
whos angry at you? You practice patience. Instead of interpreting
that persons actions as negative, or harmful,
you interpret them as positive, or beneficial. Instead
of thinking how harmful it is that the person is angry at you,
doesnt love you, think how beneficial, how necessary, how
useful it is. Just as you feel it important to have in your life
someone who loves you, feel it just as necessary to have someone
who doesnt love you. Think how much you need the person
who is angry at you. Feel that the person who dislikes you is
just as precious as the one who has compassion for you. Instead
of seeing it as negative, see it as positive, beneficial.